Sapphic Romance

How to Write Sapphic Romance That Feels True

Kia Orion | | 6 min read

Casey McQuiston's Red, White & Royal Blue became a phenomenon. It hit bestseller lists, got a movie deal, launched a thousand fan accounts. But if you're trying to learn how to write sapphic romance, the more interesting book to study is One Last Stop.

The protagonist, August, is bisexual. She falls for Jane, a woman stuck in a time loop on a New York City subway car. McQuiston made a choice early in that book that changed everything about how the love story landed: she treated the queerness as a given. August's bisexuality isn't the obstacle. The time loop is the obstacle. The question isn't will she accept who she loves but can she save the person she loves before it's too late. That distinction freed McQuiston to write a romance where the tension came from the relationship itself, from two people learning each other under impossible conditions, rather than from the fact that they were both women.

I keep coming back to that choice because it clarifies something about WLW romance writing that newer writers often get tangled up in. The question isn't whether queerness matters in your story. It does. The question is what role you're asking it to play.

Queerness as context, not as conflict

There's a generation of sapphic romance that built entire plots around coming out. The central tension was internal: a woman realizing she's attracted to another woman, fighting it, eventually accepting it. Those stories mattered enormously. They still do for readers who need that particular mirror.

But something has shifted. Readers increasingly want stories where queerness is the water the characters swim in, not the wall they're trying to climb. The couple can be out from page one. The families can be accepting. The world can be, if not fully safe, at least not the primary source of pain.

This doesn't mean conflict disappears. It means the conflict gets to be specific. Two women can argue about money, or ambition, or whether to move across the country for a job. They can hurt each other in ways that have nothing to do with their orientation and everything to do with who they are as individuals. When you let go of queerness-as-plot-engine, you gain access to all the same human friction that drives any romance.

The craft question is where you set the dial. Some stories need the coming-out arc. Many more are waiting for writers brave enough to skip past it.

Writing attraction without the male gaze

This is the part that trips up even experienced romance writers.

Attraction scenes between women have a specific inherited problem. Decades of film, television, and fiction have trained us to see two women together through a camera positioned for a male audience. The lighting is soft. The bodies are arranged for someone who isn't in the room. The desire belongs to the viewer, not the characters.

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Writing sapphic attraction well means placing the camera inside the character. What does she notice first? Not what looks beautiful from across the room, but what pulls her attention against her will. The way the other woman argues with a barista. A scar on her wrist she hasn't explained. The particular way she laughs when she's nervous, a sound that's nothing like her real laugh, and the fact that your protagonist already knows the difference.

Desire written from the inside is messier and less symmetrical. It's a woman noticing the wrong things at the wrong times and not being able to stop and that's the part that makes the reader feel it in their chest because they've been there too, caught staring at someone's hands during a conversation they should have been paying attention to.

I'm not sure there's a formula for this. But the test might be: if you swapped in a male observer watching these two women, would the scene still read the same? If so, the camera is in the wrong place.

Found family as a structural element

Alexandria Bellefleur's Written in the Stars does something quietly radical with its structure. The romance between Darcy and Elle doesn't happen in isolation. It happens inside a community. Friends who tease and support. Chosen family who show up with food and opinions and no intention of leaving.

This matters for sapphic romance in particular because queer people have built chosen families for centuries, often out of necessity. When a writer includes that web of relationships, they're not just adding side characters. They're acknowledging a reality. The love story gains weight because it exists inside a world that feels lived in.

The structural benefit is real, too. Found family gives you scenes that reveal character without requiring the couple to be together. You learn about Darcy through how she navigates her friend group, through the loyalties she keeps and the boundaries she draws. By the time she and Elle are alone together, the reader already understands who Darcy is under pressure.

Making the happy ending feel earned

Anita Kelly writes characters who carry history in their bodies. In Love & Other Disasters, the queer joy is real, but so is the weight behind it. Kelly's characters have lived in a world that spent a long time telling them this particular happiness wasn't available to them. When they reach for it anyway, the reader feels the courage that takes.

The happily-ever-after in sapphic romance carries a specific resonance. For readers who've been told, implicitly or explicitly, that their love stories don't get happy endings, seeing one on the page is a kind of restoration. But it only lands if the writer has done the work of making the characters earn it through the specific, particular struggles of their relationship.

A good HEA doesn't arrive because the genre demands it. It arrives because these two specific people chose each other despite everything that made choosing harder. That's true in all romance. In sapphic romance, "everything that made choosing harder" just has an additional layer the writer needs to honor without reducing it to a single obstacle.


The writers doing the best work in sapphic romance right now share a common instinct. They trust their characters to be full people first. The queerness informs everything, the way any identity does, but it doesn't flatten the story into a single theme. The conflicts are specific. The desire is located inside the characters. The community breathes.

I think about this when I sit down to write anything. The hardest part isn't finding the right words. It's having the nerve to tell the truth about what your characters actually want, and then letting them reach for it.

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Kia Orion

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