Erotica

How to Write Erotica That Readers Take Seriously

Kia Orion | | 6 min read

Sierra Simone was a librarian. She'd studied theology in graduate school, spent years reading Augustine and Aquinas, and worked at a public library where she shelved romance novels and recommended picture books. Then she wrote a book about a Catholic priest who falls in love with a woman, and it was one of the most explicitly sexual novels published that year.

Priest isn't a book that happens to be about a clergyman. The entire structure depends on Father Bell's faith being real. His vows matter to him. His belief in sin is genuine. So when desire arrives, it doesn't just create tension between two people. It creates a theological crisis that plays out in the bedroom and the confessional in equal measure, and Simone writes both with the same unflinching attention because she understands that in this story, they're the same thing.

The book became a bestseller through word of mouth and later through BookTok. But what's worth noticing is why readers kept recommending it. They didn't talk about it like guilty pleasure reading. They talked about it like it had wrecked them. The seriousness of the faith made the desire serious. The seriousness of the desire made the faith serious. Neither undercut the other.

That's the thing most erotica writing tips get wrong. They focus on how to write sex scenes. The better question is how to make sex scenes carry the weight of everything else that's happening in your characters' lives.

Worldbuilding makes the reader pay attention

Ruby Dixon's Ice Planet Barbarians series has sold millions of copies. The premise sounds like a joke if you haven't read it: human women get stranded on an ice planet and pair off with large blue aliens. Twenty-two books and counting.

What Dixon figured out is that unfamiliarity forces engagement. Her alien species has its own biology. There's a thing called "resonance" where a parasite in the alien's chest starts purring when it recognizes a mate. The aliens have different anatomy. Different cultural assumptions about partnership. Different ideas about what intimacy means.

So when a scene gets physical, the reader can't skim. You can't fall back on the usual choreography because the choreography is different here. Every detail requires attention because the rules of the world demand it. Dixon plays all of this completely straight, with humor but without irony, and the effect is that her erotica reads more carefully than most literary fiction because the reader genuinely doesn't know what happens next.

There's a craft lesson in that for anyone writing erotica, even without aliens. The more specific and strange you make the physical world of your story, the harder it is for readers to glaze over. Specificity is the opposite of generic. And generic is what makes erotica feel disposable.

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Myth does the plot work so the scenes can do the character work

Katee Robert's Neon Gods retells the Hades and Persephone myth as contemporary erotica set in a city called Olympus. Electric Idol does the same with Eros and Psyche. Wicked Beauty takes on Helen of Troy.

Here's what the mythological structure buys her. The reader already knows the shape of the story. They know Persephone goes to the underworld. They know Psyche isn't supposed to look at Eros. That foreknowledge means Robert doesn't have to spend chapters establishing where the plot is headed. She can spend that space on the characters instead.

And the characters are where the erotica lives. When you already trust the story's arc, you stop reading for plot and start reading for texture. How does this particular Persephone feel when she crosses the river? What does this Hades notice about her that surprises him? The myth provides the scaffolding. The intimate scenes provide the revelation.

I'm not sure this technique gets enough attention in how to write erotica conversations, but borrowed structure is one of the most useful tools available. Fairy tales, myths, even well-known tropes like enemies-to-lovers all function the same way. They give the reader a map so the writer can focus on what the map doesn't show.

The best erotica is written by people who aren't embarrassed by it

Simone, Dixon, and Robert share something that has nothing to do with subgenre or subject matter. None of them write with a wink. None of them signal to the reader that they know this is silly, that they're above it, that the explicit content is something to get through on the way to the real story.

That commitment reads on the page whether the writer intends it to or not. When a writer is embarrassed by their own sex scenes, the prose flinches. It reaches for euphemism or it overcorrects into clinical detachment. The rhythm gets awkward in a way that has nothing to do with the characters and everything to do with the author looking over their shoulder.

The writers who do this well treat desire as a legitimate subject for serious prose. Simone gives it the same precision she gives theology. Dixon gives it the same care she gives worldbuilding. Robert gives it the same structural intelligence she gives plot. The explicit content isn't separate from the craft. It is the craft.

That's a harder thing to teach than sentence structure or pacing. But if you're going to write erotica that readers take seriously, you have to take it seriously first. With honesty, the way you'd write about anything that actually matters to you.


I think about this with writing in general. The things that are hardest to put on the page are usually the things most worth putting there. Desire, faith, vulnerability, the specific weirdness of being a person in a body. The writers who do the best work in erotica aren't doing something separate from the rest of literature. They're doing the same thing every good writer does, just with fewer places to hide.

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Kia Orion

Author of The Writer's Daily Practice, the #1 Bestselling book in Journal Writing and Writing Skills. He writes a free daily reflection for writers.

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